First of all,
Secondly, assuming you’ve finished the 10-episode series, let’s converse about the revamp of Spike Lee’s ‘She’s Gotta Have it’, the infamous lead character, Nola Darling and why she is, in fact (as eloquently as Mrs. Overstreet could put it) a bum b*tch.
She’s a Horrible Friend
Despite the few smiles that forced themselves on our faces when seeing Nola and Mars together, let’s not overlook how they got together. Mars was seeing Clorinda first and even though the two had split, Nola’s blatant disregard of girl-code took her two notches down on the Queen meter. Not only did Nola parade Mars around but her commitment to play naïve about it was almost just as bad as her kicking Clorinda out of their once shared apartment to continue her penis parade. Nola always chose the D over her supposed home girl.
Then there was Shameeka, her flat-booty-turned-KimK-turned-Nicki-Minaj friend who was on the phone with Nola, expressing how hard of a time she was having making ends meet. (This conversation happened after Shameeka posed for Nola’s painting FOR FREE and Nola had just received ten grand).
So, what did Nola do? Nothing. She didn’t offer Shameeka a dime, not even for her time as a model. Instead, Nola gave some weak “brighter days are coming, sis” speech and the conversation was over. We would next see Shameeka face down and ass up in a motel getting Wish.com quality butt shots.
There was a third friend but after the first episode she pretty much Judy Winslow’d us. (For those of you born after 1998, see Judy Winslow for reference).
She wasn’t reliable
To anyone. At any time. It was always about Nola and her convenience. Have to teach grade school in the morning? No worries! Nola will get there when she gets there! Made a promise to the child of the woman she was trying to re-court? Don’t keep it! Show up when you can show up! Make therapy sessions, knowing you’re broke and then towards the end of the session, offer art work instead of paying! Buy that $500 dress you know that you can’t afford to make a “statement” to everyone and no one at the same damn time! BE FREE!
She often bites the hand that feeds her
Anyone who has helped Nola out in any fashion always received a snarl after the smile. From her father who gave her money after her mother rejected her plea.
(Nola lashed out at him for calling her “babygirl” and while I understand her stance against misogyny etc., this nickname was coming from the man who helped create her and just gave her money. You know, how a father provides for his baby girl.) Nola was out of line and he should have snatched the cash back.
She also received delivery assistance from Mars but didn’t invite him to her show.
That whole fiasco with Jaime and the ten grand.
The family-friend landlord who was charging her “less rent than she could charge them white folk” and yet Nola still wouldn’t pay on time.
The list goes on and on.
She used lesbianism as a crutch
The millisecond that Nola decided that she was done with men, she ran back into the arms of a (rather hot) lesbian whom she had previous relations. The two shared a heartwarming situationship for all of one episode before Nola sabotaged the encounter with her irresponsibility. Opal summed up the entire issue with their tryst in one sentence when she explained to Nola that she doesn’t get to choose to be a lesbian and engage in emotionally motivated switch-hitter behavior.
She’s a full blown narcissist!
Anyone who can paint an entire self-portrait and display it at an art show while standing next to it is a narcissist. I don’t care. Fight me.
Nola was a coward. She talked a good game about being free from men but needed more than one to sustain her life and when she felt like her control tactics were not working she switched to women. Sis broke bank to purchase a dress just to agitate her men. She defaced property to exercise her freedom of speech but then got upset when it was done back to her. And even in that event, she didn’t actively look for the guy who wrote on her work, she got one of her men to do it.
Or should I call them her herrum? *Thinking emoji*.
She relied on men so much that even the homeless guy, Mayor walked her to places. Yet she was “free”. It isn’t until she is placed in scenes with solid women (the therapist, Opal, Raqueletta Moss) that her immaturity, sporadic behavior and ditsy nature fully presents itself. A nature that she strategically hides behind the guise of art.
Nola represents a scared girl trapped in the body of a woman desperately searching for some form of freedom through sex while aiming to gain control. And when the world doesn’t offer her the control she seeks, she gains it through the loins of her lovers…in her loving bed. If that doesn’t scream narc, I don’t know what does.
Overall it was worth the watch. Hot mess lead character and all.